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Ego Fortification, Continued Learning II

Most good things seem ho-hum and we take them for granted because that is the way it should be and we don't need to take action, but we know we need to focus and deal with the negatives immediately, before they get worse. Even in the early days of infancy, there are probably far more positives than negatives, but the emotional impact of the negatives is much greater, leaving us with an overall not-OK feeling.

So part of the treatment is to recognize this, and to make a deliberate effort to appreciate the fact that many things are running smoothly, while you're dealing with one or two crises. Several crises occurring together can make you feel overwhelmed by the demands of attending to them, even though most things are still going well in your life.

You need to put such things into perspective. We are designed to operate like this, letting good things happen by default because that is what should happen so we can pay more attention to the problems because they are out of whack.

This doesn't mean there are more problems, although it can feel like that. And perception is how we create reality, so take time to say, "Thank goodness most things are still OK!" during a crisis. Even if you have been raped, there have probably been many occasions when you could have been raped and weren't.
This is the true at work as well as after hours. You can make a valuable contribution by helping to defuse crises. Kipling recognized this in his poem "If'.

And although they joke about it and say that if you can keep your head while all around are losing theirs, then you don't know what the problem is, he had a valuable insight, but unfortunately no advice as to how to accomplish it. Keeping things in perspective is the key. There's always time to panic later, if need be. But panicking at the start wastes valuable time and interferes with constructive thought.


(continued from part I)