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Provoking Humilities II
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Dialog Examples
When someone decides that they are OK but others are “not OK”, they assume a dominant or superior position over others. However, this position is threatened by others seeking equal status and respect. The solution may take the form of provoking humilities.
Examples
• A man enjoys his status as the breadwinner and being superior to his wife. He eats dinner and describes it as “tolerable” or “manageable”. She is then challenged to describe her need to do better next time or how her cooking has always been mediocre at best. “You’re such a lousy cook, but we’ll make it through tonight.” “Your cooking isn’t that great, right?” “Your mom’s cooking was this bad, wasn’t it?”
• The lowest man on the totem pole may be a hard worker but is considered inferior. Any mistake is taken as a sign of his mediocrity, clumsiness or poor performance. The person is asked to confirm the beliefs of the others through leading questions intended to provoke humility. “You’re always such a klutz, aren’t you?” “This is really hard for you, isn’t it?”
• “You’re always so angry, aren’t you?”
• “Why are you always this upset? Why don’t you ever calm done?”
• “Why is this sort of thing always your fault?”
• “Why do you do it to me? Why do you make me angry? Why do you make me so upset?”
(This article is continued from part I)